ParentTV: More Merry, Less Mayhem At Christmas

December 1, 2025

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As the end of the school year rushes towards us, many families are already feeling the pressure of “making Christmas magical”. Social media, catalogues and even well-meaning relatives can send the message that bigger is better: more presents, more events, more food, more decorations.

Australian parenting educator Maggie Dent reminds us that, for children, all of that “more” can quickly become too much. Big, busy, noisy celebrations and over-the-top expectations can easily tip little nervous systems into overwhelm. That’s often when we see meltdowns, tears, refusals to share, or siblings fighting right when we were hoping for a “perfect” family day.

Here are a few gentle ideas, inspired by Maggie’s “More merry, less mayhem at Christmas” message, to help families dial down the pressure and dial up the connection.

1. Keep it simple (and avoid the debt trap)

One of the kindest things we can do for ourselves is decide in advance what we won’t do this year. That might mean fewer activities, a simpler lunch, or saying no to one extra event.

Maggie shares that one of her family’s most memorable Christmases was a year when illness meant they stayed home, in quarantine. No big outings, no fancy food – just time together and a few simple gifts. The children still remember it fondly because it felt calm and connected.

2. Lower the bar on “perfect”

By the time Christmas arrives, everyone is tired. It’s the end of a long term and a long year. When we pile on high expectations – perfect food, perfect behaviour, perfect family harmony – we set ourselves up for disappointment.

It’s okay if the ham gets a bit burnt, the table isn’t Instagram-worthy, or someone needs some quiet time away from the crowd. Our children don’t need perfection; they need us to be as present, kind and steady as we can manage.

3. Focus on experiences, not just things

Children can only play with so many toys. Instead of more “stuff” all at once, Maggie encourages families – especially grandparents – to think about gifting experiences that can be enjoyed across the year: a zoo visit, a picnic, a movie date, a special baking afternoon, a swimming pass.

These spread the joy out over time and create memories, not clutter.

4. Choose what suits your child

Trends come and go, but our job is to look at the child in front of us. What helps your child feel safe, settled and happy? A quieter morning at home in pyjamas might be better than racing between multiple gatherings. A smaller gift that really matches their interests might be more meaningful than the latest fad.

Christmas will always be a little chaotic – and that’s okay. But with a simpler plan, realistic expectations and a focus on connection over perfection, families can absolutely have more merry and less mayhem this year. 🎄✨

Attribution: Adapted from key ideas shared by parenting educator Maggie Dent in her video “More Merry, Less Mayhem at Christmas” on ParentTV.

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